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Parents That Coach: Navigating the Dual Role Without Losing Either
Understanding the complex dynamics of parents that coach, for parents, youth athletes, and organisations.
Leilanie Pakoa
May 186 min read


When the Coach Is (Maybe) the Problem: Supporting Athletes Through Difficult Coaching Relationships
Coaches hold enormous influence in an athlete's life. At their best, they shape confidence, build resilience, and ignite a lifelong love of sport. But what happens when a coaching relationship becomes the source of stress rather than support? This blog explores how athletes, parents, and organisations can recognise the warning signs of harmful coaching and what can be done to protect athlete wellbeing without losing sight of growth, skill development, and a love of sport. Und
Leilanie Pakoa
May 116 min read


Coaching the Coach: Why Skill Development Isn’t Just for Athletes
Coaching is often framed as something you step into because you know the sport, you have experience, or you care about helping young athletes. But in reality, coaching is a role that stretches far beyond drills, game plans, and technical cues. Coaches are leaders, motivators, problem-solvers, steady hands under pressure, and the emotional temperature-setters of their teams. Yet while athletes are constantly encouraged to learn new skills, practice mental strategies, and refin
Leilanie Pakoa
Feb 35 min read


What Counts as Exercise? Rethinking Movement for Every Body
Most people grow up with a very specific picture of what exercise looks like. It is usually fast, sweaty, structured, and high intensity. It is team sport, running, weights, or something that feels hard enough to prove that it “counts.” If you walk, stretch, dance in the kitchen, play with your dog, or ride your bike to work, you might not consider any of that “real exercise.” But here is the truth. The science is clear that exercise is far broader, more flexible, and much mo
Leilanie Pakoa
Jan 295 min read


The Psychology of Exercise Slumps: Why They Happen and How to Reset
Everyone experiences an exercise slump at some point. You miss a session, then another, and suddenly it has been weeks. You feel flat, disconnected, or frustrated. You want to get moving again, but the thought of starting feels heavy. You might even question your motivation or identity as someone who used to exercise regularly. These slumps are not signs of failure or weakness. They are predictable, human responses to stress, transition, overwhelm, shifts in identity, or chan
Leilanie Pakoa
Jan 235 min read


The Self Criticism Spiral: Why We Are So Hard on Ourselves About Exercise
Most people know the feeling. You miss a session, skip a walk, lose motivation, or fall out of routine, and suddenly the inner critic shows up. It tells you that you are lazy or uncommitted. It convinces you that you have fallen behind. It can even make you feel guilty for resting, taking time off, or choosing a lighter session. This spiral of self criticism is incredibly common, especially in athletes, high achievers, perfectionists, and neurodivergent individuals. But it is
Leilanie Pakoa
Jan 195 min read


Graduating From the Game: Life Beyond Your Current Level
Whether you’re moving on from a school team, leaving a performance program, changing competitive level, or stepping back from sport altogether, that moment of transition can feel like both an ending and a beginning. It’s a time of letting go of the “old you,” reconnecting with your values, and rediscovering purpose and community beyond what the scoreboard and training diary have defined. Here are some reflections and evidence-based tools to help you navigate this next chapter
Leilanie Pakoa
Jan 145 min read


The Learning Curve: Why Growth Feels So Hard (and What to Do About It)
We all love the idea of growth — getting faster, stronger, smarter, or more skilled. But the reality of it? Growth is uncomfortable. It’s messy. It can feel like you’re going backwards before you’re going forwards. Whether you’re an athlete learning a new skill, a student moving up a year level, or someone taking a leap in life, the truth is: learning hurts before it helps. That discomfort doesn’t mean you’re failing; it means your brain is doing its job. Let’s unpack what’s
Leilanie Pakoa
Jan 95 min read


The Psychology of Behaviour Change: Why It's Hard & How to Make It Stick
starting the watch for new year goals and habits! Every January, motivation spikes. We set goals, buy new planners, download workout apps and make big promises to ourselves about how the year will look. And then, a few weeks later, the excitement fades. Routines slip. We feel disappointed or frustrated because we “should be better than this.” If this sounds familiar, you are not alone. Behaviour change is not a character flaw or a discipline problem. It is a complex psycholog
Leilanie Pakoa
Jan 65 min read


The Fundamentals of Sport Psychology: 10 Topics You Need to Know
From mental health & wellbeing to team dynamics & the psychology of coaching! Read about 10 topics related to sport and exercise psychology!
Leilanie Pakoa
Apr 11, 20244 min read
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