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Supporting an Athlete Through an Eating Disorder: A Guide for Coaches, Parents, and Teams
A guide for coaches and parents around some of the difficulties in approaching care for athletes experiencing eating disorders.
Leilanie Pakoa
1 day ago6 min read


The Signs We Miss: Disordered Eating and Orthorexia in Athletes
The fitness industry is a beast of an industry with often good intensions. But what happens when the people we are influenced by are portraying disordered eating habits and routines.
Leilanie Pakoa
Jun 85 min read
Binge Eating Disorder in Athletes: What We Need to Talk About
Over the past couple months I have completed close to 30 hours of professional development on binge eating disorder (BED), thanks to the ANZAED Autumn workshop series. I have come away from that training with a renewed conviction that this is one of the most underdiagnosed, misunderstood, and inadequately supported conditions in the athlete population and that current trends in weight-loss medication are making the situation more urgent, not less. What Is Binge Eating Disorde
Leilanie Pakoa
Jun 15 min read


Coaching Young Female Athletes: What the Evidence Tells Us to Pay Attention To
This blog details considerations for coaches of your female athletes.
Leilanie Pakoa
May 256 min read


Parents That Coach: Navigating the Dual Role Without Losing Either
Understanding the complex dynamics of parents that coach, for parents, youth athletes, and organisations.
Leilanie Pakoa
May 186 min read


When the Coach Is (Maybe) the Problem: Supporting Athletes Through Difficult Coaching Relationships
Coaches hold enormous influence in an athlete's life. At their best, they shape confidence, build resilience, and ignite a lifelong love of sport. But what happens when a coaching relationship becomes the source of stress rather than support? This blog explores how athletes, parents, and organisations can recognise the warning signs of harmful coaching and what can be done to protect athlete wellbeing without losing sight of growth, skill development, and a love of sport. Und
Leilanie Pakoa
May 116 min read


Neurodiversity in Sport, Part 1: Understanding Neurodivergence in Athletes and Sports Systems
Earlier this year I had the privilege of co-presenting a webinar series on neuroaffirming interventions in sport with Dr. Samantha McLeod from The SAM Centre, delivered through Sports Medicine Australia and College of Sport & Exercise Psychologists. The conversations that followed, with practitioners, coaches, and athletes, made one thing clear: most of us working in sport have had little to no formal training on neurodiversity, and our systems still expect neurodivergent ath
Leilanie Pakoa
May 48 min read


Why Coaches Stop Learning — and What We Can Do About It
Not long ago, I had a conversation that has stayed with me. I was at a session with Professor Cliff Mallett, a researcher who has spent decades studying coaching expertise and sport psychology, and I asked him about coach evaluations. Why, I wondered, do so many coaches resist being assessed or evaluated, even when the intention is to support their development? His answer was characteristically direct: “Well, coaches are supposed to be the experts. So evaluation is a threat.”
Leilanie Pakoa
May 44 min read


What I Took Away from the Women in Sport Congress: A Sport Psychologist’s Perspective
Earlier this month I had the privilege of attending the Women in Sport Congress — two days of presentations, panels, and conversations about the state of women in sport in Australia and beyond. It was great to connect with so many likeminded health professionals and people working in sporting spaces. I feel as if I was inducted into the world of rugby league, connecting with many of the allied health professionals working in that space! I left feeling inspired, challenged, an
Leilanie Pakoa
Mar 265 min read
Bringing a Team Together: The Psychology of Cohesion, Safety and Shared Identity
Every coach wants a connected team. A team that communicates well, supports each other, plays for each other, stays grounded under pressure, and feels united on and off the field. Yet bringing a group of individuals together into a cohesive, resilient, and safe team environment is one of the hardest parts of coaching. It does not happen through a single team talk, a pre-season camp, or a one-off activity. It happens through repeated, intentional behaviours that build trust, c
Leilanie Pakoa
Feb 236 min read


Coaching Styles That Work: Understanding Yourself Before You Lead Others
Every coach has a way of leading, speaking, motivating, managing conflict, and responding under pressure. Some of this comes naturally. Some of it comes from how we were coached growing up. And a lot of it comes from habit, environmental norms, and the demands of the sport. But here is something important. Coaching style is not a fixed personality trait. It is a skill that can be understood, refined, and adapted. From grassroots to professional sport, the more self-awareness
Leilanie Pakoa
Feb 116 min read


Coaching the Coach: Why Skill Development Isn’t Just for Athletes
Coaching is often framed as something you step into because you know the sport, you have experience, or you care about helping young athletes. But in reality, coaching is a role that stretches far beyond drills, game plans, and technical cues. Coaches are leaders, motivators, problem-solvers, steady hands under pressure, and the emotional temperature-setters of their teams. Yet while athletes are constantly encouraged to learn new skills, practice mental strategies, and refin
Leilanie Pakoa
Feb 35 min read


What Counts as Exercise? Rethinking Movement for Every Body
Most people grow up with a very specific picture of what exercise looks like. It is usually fast, sweaty, structured, and high intensity. It is team sport, running, weights, or something that feels hard enough to prove that it “counts.” If you walk, stretch, dance in the kitchen, play with your dog, or ride your bike to work, you might not consider any of that “real exercise.” But here is the truth. The science is clear that exercise is far broader, more flexible, and much mo
Leilanie Pakoa
Jan 295 min read


The Psychology of Exercise Slumps: Why They Happen and How to Reset
Everyone experiences an exercise slump at some point. You miss a session, then another, and suddenly it has been weeks. You feel flat, disconnected, or frustrated. You want to get moving again, but the thought of starting feels heavy. You might even question your motivation or identity as someone who used to exercise regularly. These slumps are not signs of failure or weakness. They are predictable, human responses to stress, transition, overwhelm, shifts in identity, or chan
Leilanie Pakoa
Jan 235 min read


The Self Criticism Spiral: Why We Are So Hard on Ourselves About Exercise
Most people know the feeling. You miss a session, skip a walk, lose motivation, or fall out of routine, and suddenly the inner critic shows up. It tells you that you are lazy or uncommitted. It convinces you that you have fallen behind. It can even make you feel guilty for resting, taking time off, or choosing a lighter session. This spiral of self criticism is incredibly common, especially in athletes, high achievers, perfectionists, and neurodivergent individuals. But it is
Leilanie Pakoa
Jan 195 min read


Graduating From the Game: Life Beyond Your Current Level
Whether you’re moving on from a school team, leaving a performance program, changing competitive level, or stepping back from sport altogether, that moment of transition can feel like both an ending and a beginning. It’s a time of letting go of the “old you,” reconnecting with your values, and rediscovering purpose and community beyond what the scoreboard and training diary have defined. Here are some reflections and evidence-based tools to help you navigate this next chapter
Leilanie Pakoa
Jan 145 min read


The Learning Curve: Why Growth Feels So Hard (and What to Do About It)
We all love the idea of growth — getting faster, stronger, smarter, or more skilled. But the reality of it? Growth is uncomfortable. It’s messy. It can feel like you’re going backwards before you’re going forwards. Whether you’re an athlete learning a new skill, a student moving up a year level, or someone taking a leap in life, the truth is: learning hurts before it helps. That discomfort doesn’t mean you’re failing; it means your brain is doing its job. Let’s unpack what’s
Leilanie Pakoa
Jan 95 min read


The Psychology of Behaviour Change: Why It's Hard & How to Make It Stick
starting the watch for new year goals and habits! Every January, motivation spikes. We set goals, buy new planners, download workout apps and make big promises to ourselves about how the year will look. And then, a few weeks later, the excitement fades. Routines slip. We feel disappointed or frustrated because we “should be better than this.” If this sounds familiar, you are not alone. Behaviour change is not a character flaw or a discipline problem. It is a complex psycholog
Leilanie Pakoa
Jan 65 min read
From One Chapter to the Next: The Psychology of Transition in Sport
Change is part of every athlete’s journey. Whether it’s moving up an age group, shifting clubs, making a representative team, or not, transitions can bring excitement, uncertainty, pride, and grief all at once. In sport, we often talk about performance transitions, like the technical, physical, and tactical adjustments, but rarely about the emotional and identity shifts that come with change. When the jersey, team, or title changes, the question quietly emerges: “Who am I no
Leilanie Pakoa
Dec 13, 20255 min read
Stepping Into the Unknown: How to Navigate Change With Confidence
Change can be exciting, but it can also be uncomfortable. Whether you’re moving up an age group, changing teams, or facing a big life transition like leaving school or starting university, stepping into the unknown can bring up uncertainty, stress, and even fear. As a sport psychologist, I often see athletes who say, “I know I should be excited, but I just feel anxious.” That’s completely normal. Change requires us to rewire our routines, adjust our sense of control, and fin
Leilanie Pakoa
Dec 4, 20255 min read
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